To drive or not to drive?

As you may know, I'm on EH and have been talking to a few guys on there (not sooo many, but you know). I connected with one guy & talked to him for about 2 weeks or so, & we ended up meeting for dinner last Sunday night. It was fine & went ok, but there was no chemistry from his end. It is a little kick in the pants - someone telling you they don't have a spark with you. But I've had that feeling about other guys before! They may be really good looking, but nothing is there. You either have those feelings or ya don't. I really appreciated his honesty though; just for the sake of not holding on & moving on. He lived too far away anyways. On that note...

I've really connected with this other guy named John from Greenville, SC (I know, I know, another state). He is a musician (horn, piano, orchestra stuff - seeking a career with a symphony... he must be smart), he was in the military (went to Afghanistan & everything), Godly man, grew up in AZ, he's 28... and I'm sure I'll think of some more stuff. But he seems like a great guy: really laid back, loves to travel, kind, relaxed, etc. We've talked on the phone and texted; our phone convo was a little over an hour, felt really comfortable talking to him, interesting etc. He is on the west coast for about a week, having interviewed in Phoenix for the symphony out there.

So he texted me this yesterday afternoon:

"Driving back to Phoenix this Friday and back to SC this Monday. What do you think about getting together when I get back?"

I told him I'd be up for it...

"Excellent, what's your schedule like a week from this Friday night?"

Making plans ahead of time, I like it! I told him I didn't have any plans.

"Just so you're aware I don't have a vehicle at the moment since I sold mine to my bro. Would you be open to meeting up where I live in Greenville that Friday night & spend some time together during the day on Saturday that way we can have more time getting to know each other? I'll get a hotel room for you too :) Just let me know what sounds good to you!"

I told him that I'd think about it... that's a pretty big deal to me - driving to another state & staying over night. I've seen waaaaaay too many 20/20 ~ Dateline episodes about a situation like this going wrong.

"I'm flexible. I can probably borrow my sister's car & meet you in Atlanta Friday night. Whatever's good for you!"

So is this something to question or worry about? - Driving up there to see him? I dont even know how far it'd be... I did like how he said he could also use his sister's car to meet me. I felt that was sweet, to offer up another option so everything wouldn't be on me. So that convo was last night & I texted him today to tell him that I was still thinking about/trying to figure it out. I had thought if I were to drve up there, I could ask my big sis to tag along for the ride & the hotel stay :) No one would mess with me if she was there ;) She'd whoop some ass! I even offered to meet him maybe halfway. So I told him that & he responded...

"Actually, I can just meet you in Atlanta a week from this Friday night. What time is good for you?"

Whew... So no 2+ hour drive for me. Of course that'd be fun, but maybe not on a first meeting with someone. That'd be too nerve-racking for me & not near home! I guess too, I hate to say it, but I'm not getting my hopes up for anything (from the last meeting with a guy). Haha, I'm almost counting on him not having chemistry with me, like the last one. I know I can't think like that and can't count on that. But if I don't meet him, I'll never know. I feel like it takes a lot to put myself out there, so why not - what do I have to lose? I might be surprised!